The Terrible Things People Say About Your Weight! Do They Call You Fat?
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skinny photo taken long ago.
Do they call you fat?
Do you every thought of the terrible things people say about weight? I have, I know there are lots of people with this kind of problem. Nasty fat remarks people make to you. You're not alone I have received many. People never really call me fat, but that is their meaning with the remarks they make.
I'm short so even five pounds on me shows up very fast. I may be only ten pounds over my weight goal, but I guess even that looks fat on me. Think goodness my weight goal has gone up I could never keep my weight at 100 pounds. That's the advantages to getting old the weight scale goes up.
I go up and down with my weight and I stay in Weight Watchers so that I have to weigh in and face the leader each week it keeps me from gaining more.
I'm a stressful eater. My husband the minute he gets stressed he loses weight because he stops eating. When he's happy he gains.
Here are some of the nasty remarks I have heard through the years.
I can tell you I'm well over my weight goal now.
Some of Those Remarks.
Once I was walking in a hallway in the Mall when a couple teen boys walked past me and went "oink, oink."
Mother introduced me as her fat daughter. My mother is a very lovely person and loves her children, but she can never drop the fat thing.
Once while visiting in RI downtown Newport a truck passed with three or four men in it, construction workers....they yelled....two-by-four at me.
A so-called friend once said you gained at least four sizes since I have known you, This was said by a heavy man. He knew me when I was only 95 lbs.
My mother and I were standing at the window doing dishes when the lady down the road came outside she was about 300 lbs. my mother said: "That looks like you" at the time I had just had a baby and weighed 115 lbs. I have pictures of myself on that vacation how I wish I looked like that now. No matter how much I weigh my mother will always think I'm fat. She thinks that of just about everyone she sees.
Trying to join a swim class at the Y for health reasons than knowing a person there is saying how fat I am. I stop going to the class because I found out what was being said. No one will ever see me in a swimsuit again. I don't let people bother me to much, but this is more than I can even take.
Once had a neighborhood lady say to me when I was about 7-8 months pregnant that she had heard I went way over board on my weight gain. Through the whole pregnancy I gained 25 lbs. Just the amount the doctor allowed me to gain. I wasn't overweight when I started out. That was my third pregnancy. We women all know how we feel so big while pregnant and then have someone make that kind of remark really hurts. I thought I was doing so good kind of proud of myself. After that I was no longer proud.
My first pregnancy I gained 35 lbs. the nurse and the doctor yelled at me each time I went in for a check-up made me feel like not going in. When I went in for delivery they were still on me about it. For crying out loud it was really to late. My first pregnancy was why I was careful with my weight with the next two pregnancies.
My second pregnancy I was two pounds overweight so the doctor allowed me to gain 23 lbs. I went over I gained 25 lbs. He didn't yell, but always reminded me not to gain more.
I had two heart attacks when I was 38. People would say to me "Well, now maybe you will take better care of yourself." As if they did everything perfect, but I didn't. At that time my weight was 115. I had a houseful of kids, animals, and husband that I took care of eachday. I gardened, bowled, walked and helped my husband get wood. I was very active and didn't overeat never ate fast food. Made meals at home with fresh food.
I had a friend stop by my house that I hadn't seen since I was 17 and the first thing she said to me, " I can't believe that you would gain weight." When I was 17....I weighed about 95 lbs. it's hard for anyone to stay that way forever.
I was once compared to a person in my family that is actually not blood related. That person is way overweight and they thought we looked like sisters because of our weight. I don't even understand it. I was never anywhere close to that weight and we don't look alike at all. I don't understand people who say those things. I guess I never will.
I once had a person say to me, "I will never wear that size." Well, she does now. Payback when you start making fun of the size clothes someone wears. It will come back to bite you every time.
When one of my babies were about two months old I decided I had to learn how to drive just to get the kids to doctors and not have to depend on other people. While in the driving class I talked with another lady and she said to me, "You need to exercise to lose that tummy." I knew this woman about two weeks. Hard to believe anyone would say that to a person. The reason I remembered this was I saw that woman yesterday in the store.
I have more to add to this list once I remember them all. The list goes on and on. I have no idea why people think it's ok to say anything they want. I would never be so rude as to say anything nasty to anyone. I keep trying to lose my weight. I struggle with it each day. Sometimes you just want to say "Oh, forget it eat what you want."
I was once at a funeral and I wore a dress that was high wasted. Someone wanted to know if I was pregnant. They didn't ask me they ask someone else and that person let me know what they said. I never wore that type of dress again.
Celebrities
Look at what celebrities go through with their weight and what the tabloids say about them. It always surprises me at what people consider fat. Jessica Simpson is a size 4 in this picture.
Just go on the internet and see what terrible things their saying about Jessica Simpson just because they think she has put on some weight.
Just look what they're doing to Jessica because she gained wait during her pregnancy. I have heard other stars tell about the weight they gained it was as much as Jessica has gained. Jessica seems to be the one they like to pick on. She always seems like a happy person I'm not sure why people dislike her.
Some Florida doctors refusing to treat overweight women.
Be Happy.
There is nothing you can do about ignorant people . You just have to go on and be happy with yourself.
I saw a young pretty woman yesterday that I had not seen in a long time. I know she has three little girls, pretty little things with bouncy curly hair. I was shocked by the weight she had put on I could tell she was breathing hard as she tried to do her work. I don't know if she has health problems that caused this weight gain because I don't know her well. She very well is completely happy with herself just the way she is.
I felt bad for her because I know she very likely goes through much each day from people she meets. Many people have that attitude if they say something about your weight it will help you lose it. WRONG! It just causes more sadness and in some more eating.
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I'm really not unhappy with myself but it seems many people are unhappy with me.
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BMI CHART
BMI Calculator
My most hated word.....OBESE.......!
A BMI over 25 suggests you're overweight, while 30-39 indicates you're obese.
They're doing BMI charts for kids in school. Girls coming home thinking they're to fat. What will this do to our kids I don't think it will help. It's fine to teach healthy eating in school and let kids know what they should eat, but to embarrass them by doing BMI is just crazy. That is not up to our schools, but that's for our doctors to manage. You know there will be children that will ask the overweight child what their BMI was. You know that child will have a hard time lying about it. Overweight children have a hard enough time in school with being bullied this will just add to it.I know the questions will be ask. I'm ask about my weight all the time in WW. Questions I don't want to answer. I try not to ask other people because I really don't care how they did but once they ask me than I will ask them how they did. I just truly don't care and I don't like putting people on the spot thinking they have to lie if they feel they need to cover up their gain. Many people will lie because their embarrassed.
A federal agent inspects lunches in North Carolina and tells child her lunch is not good enough. What the ___ does this mean we are now having agents looking into our child's food. This child had a lunch and it was not a bad lunch at all. We're losing our rights to feed our kids the way we want. Our kids are being told we're bad parents for the way we feed them.
I understand making sure a child has food to eat while their in school and not going hungry. I know this happens everyday in schools.
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I hope this hub has helped others and realize they are not alone. This happens everyday to many people.
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I have no words. What terrible, hurtful things! I have struggled with my weight all my life as well. Up, down, up, down. The minute stress hits, I turn right to food. I know how hard it is, and sayilng, "Just put down the fork" isn't that easy. Some people smoke, drink, over-exercise, bite their nails....I happen to overeat to deal with stress. The only thing is, other can throw out their ciggies, not allow booze in their home, etc. WE can't avoid food!
Are you watching Ruby on TLC? I love her and really relate to her. I just wondered if you are watching the series.
And not to be disrespectful, but methinks your grandmother imparted some very very screwed up thoughts on body image to your mother and her sisters. I'm so sorry that YOU are the one paying the price for that.
I am very sorry to hear that you had to deal with such harsh comments. But I have to also say that it is very helpful to hear that I am not alone. Sometimes we just have to be happy with ourselves and not worry about what others think which can be easier said than done at times. I also think that those that make comments have issues within themselves that they need to work on. I always say clean up your own backyard before you tell me about mine. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for signing my hub and becoming my fan. Your right we have to be happy with ourselves..
I've discovered that the only way to stop people from saying mean things about your weight is to pre-empt them by laughing at yourself. It completely foxes them! Try it Moonlake. :)
Oh I have. I don't want to make it sound like I walk around crying over things people say to me I don't . In fact most of the stuff listed here I have not even told my husband or friends about. He knows about my Mom's remarks but with her I'm not the only one she picks on.
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It is terrible that people will judge someone because of the way that they look. I know that cannot be easy. I too struggle with my weight after I had my daughter and it is taking me over a year to work it off. I'm very happy I don't have to hear people say things - at least not to my face.
It can be just as bad though saying them to ourselves and I know that I can be negative with myself at time. It is a good reminder to not be negative and let these things get to us. Even though it is very tough to do that.
Don't let these people get to you. Know that many people who do this are insecure themselves and have to make themselves feel good by cutting others down.
p.s. I love that first picture. I wish I could do that with my scale! lol!
Thanks for comments. We all wish we could that to our scale.
I have to get on mine everyday mainly because my heart doctor wants me to so I can check and make sure I'm not building up fluid. Wish is another all together different weight problem. On bad heart days my weight will go up 3-4 lbs.
People can be so rude! I have the opposite problem; I need to gain weight. Every time I actually do gain some, my parents and grandparents, friends, even workmates make a huge deal about it: telling me how I look so much better with a few pounds more on me, etc.
Either end of the spectrum, I don't know why people feel they need to comment. It's really none of their business.
I agree. When my granddaughter was in high school the kids were always saying to her that she was anorexic. Hurt her feelings and she wasn't now that she is an adult she still small but has trouble keeping her weight down just like we all do in our family.
Being nasty is like a job, some people get to do it but I assure you that they are probably more miserable about life than the people they take jibes at. Feel sorry for them if you must but don't let it get to you!
If you're not happy with your shape, I suggest that you consider measuring body fat percentage rather than weight.
If you have been on yo-yo diets for any length of time you may find that your body fat is too high; most people who yo-yo diet, lose fat and muscle when they diet but when they gain put the weight back on they gain fat not muscle. Since fat is lighter than muscle they look bigger at the same weight. Get your body fat percentage down and you could well find yourself looking and feeling a whole lot better about yourself. Check out Bill Phillips' Body for Life, a brilliant book that you can adapt if you find it too tough.
Thanks for comments and checking out my hub.
Some of those comments were just awful. People can be cruel.
I started losing weight the beginning of this year, I didn't do it because of what my familys and friends thought, I did it for myself.
If you're content with yourself, then forget what others say, they'll talk regardless. Just brush it off, and move on.
Thanks for comments ...I agree.
Things can change.
Hang in there Moonlake. I have several friends who have begun a very successful fat loss program in the last 6 months. They are all delighted with the results.
They are getting a different kind of comment now, "What are you doing? You look so great."
Thanks Jack for your post.
Very truthful Hub! I know where you're coming from! I, also have a weight problem. I have always been slightly overweight, yet when I had the twins I had health problems that caused me to lose weight(overactive thyroid),then I gained it all back within the next year.I'm still trying to lose weight and I guess I always will be.
My Mother has always been understanding about my weight, but my Father and Grandfather are very inconsiderate of other peoples feelings. They are always reminding people of their weight. All my life I've been self conscious about my weight because of them. My Mother is 4'11", and has never been overweight in her life.In fact,when my siblings and I were small she weighed 89 lbs! She was sick the first part of 2008 and gained an extra 5-10 lbs. My Father and Grandfather reminded her of it constantly, until she finally lost down to her normal weight.
I think people should be more considerate of other peoples feelings,especially since they really don't know you and, therefore, shouldn't judge you. And famillies should support each other not criticize! Maybe we COULD lose this extra weight if they would support our efforts instead of finding fault!
southerngirl I agree with you people need to stop and thank what their doing when they say nasty things. When those same people gain weight they act like it has never happened.
Thanks so much for your comments.
I've never actually been called fat to my face (although I have called myself a fat chick many a time!) but when I got rid of a toxic friend she said I was jealous because now I was the fat friend and she wasn't (she had recently had the lapband installed on her stomach). How can someone who tipped the scales (more than once) at over 400 pounds say that about someone else?
I don't know but it's a terrible thing to say. I guess it's like a person who stops smoking then becomes the awful person to people who do smoke. They act like they never smoked a day in their lives.
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Fasting regularly maybe helpChill out. If not, new problems can appear.
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... i too have suffered with weight problems for many years. when i was 16 hypErthyroidism hit me like a ton of bricks, i lost 50 lbs in one month. i had a few kids found out possible cancer in thyroid, did radiation and here i am with hypOthyroidism. in the past 7 years it has been a struggle. i feel your pain!!
Thanks for stopping by. So sorry about your struggle. I know it's hard with hypothyroidism.
It sounds like the real problem lies with your mother. She evidently has some very serious weight issues, either she is overweight and unhappy with herself, or someone else was always critisizing her weight - whether or not she was at a healthy weight. You should try sitting down with you mother and asking why it is she is so pre-occupied with YOUR weight. People tend to critisize things they cannot be. Find out what her issues with weight are, who constantly hounded her about her weight. Be happy with who you are, what someone else thinks/says doesn't matter. The things people do and say to you says much more about them than it does about you.
She was always thin. I don't remember anyone ever getting onto her about her weight unless it was the doctor telling her to gain. At 87 I don't think I'll talk with her now.
She is who she is.
Thanks for stopping by and for comments.
Hi there
Yes, people say terrible things about having the extra weight on us.
To heck with them
I am doing a weight loss/nutrition group starting in August. It is free to join. I beleive working in three month periods. If I can lose 5 pounds every three months (and keep it off), that is 20 pounds a year or several dress sizes.
Check me out and think about joing the group.
No terrible hurtful words allowed there.http://hubpages.com/profile/Claudiazinc
Cheers
Claudia
Thanks for stopping by my hub and good luck with your plans for weight loss in Aug.
For many people, being overweight is associated with being uncomfortable in their own skin. To assist with weight control, every time the urge to snack if felt , first drink a large glass of clear water. This simple act will help you to eat less. Water will soon become one of your best friends. The major reason so many people in America are overweight is because we eat too much for comfort! It does not hurt to treat ourselves with something special once in a while, what is necessary is that we limit our portions and do not overeat! It is also necessary to keep our body properly hydrated, so drink a full glass of water with each meal or snack. Being overweight ******, but after reading a book, I lost 85 pounds! Words can not express how good I feel! This is a comment which I recently received about the book Lose Weight Using Four Easy Steps
Water is your friend that is for sure. Weight is much easier to lose if you drink water. The book sounds good. My problem to is I eat when stressed. Oh how I hate that.
Thanks so much for stopping by.
Congratulations on your weight loss.
Sorry it took me so long to get to your post. I have been really busy and haven't been on here.
People are ignorant and can say and do some really nasty things. I have used that type of reaction or comments as motivation to eat better. I don't want people like that to win so I get better.
It is definetly terrible that people will say things like that and in return you are probably beautiful so they have to find something wrong with you.
Adam80 and khood1357 thanks so much for stopping by and leaving comments. Really does just push a person to eat better. Sometimes that doesn't even seem to help to get that weight off.
I'm in the same boat with my weight . Isn't it funny how some people tend to make it an issue for you when you are not? Yes, I'm dealing with my obesity. For myself the overeating was a n addiction because of the abuse I endured at work. Now that I'm in counseling I realize that this is not MY " problem"; sometimes people make it your "problem because they are not happy with themselves, therefore they look at your size and use you as an easy target! Now that I'm aware of this, I am focused on getting fit for health reasons. If those same people approach me after I turn into the beautful butterfly - well I can't post profanity, it's simlpy not ladylike!
Good for you and good luck with getting fit.
hi im 11yrs old ive been overweight since i was 5 my mom has diabetes and we have had so many rude people to me and my famly. at school its just horible these rude boys and all the skinny little girls lookin me up and down like im not suposed to be there. we have had rude watressis. but im trying real hard and its people like you to inspire me to
just let it go thx
*Makayla*
Makayla, thanks for stopping by and putting your comment on my hub. Kids I know are the worst at making fun of people for every thing. You have to remember they also make fun of people who are short, people who are tall, people who wear glasses, you name it a kid will make fun of everything. Be yourself and love who you are.
i love being fat. i stay warm at nite.
Never thought of that. Thanks for stopping by.
i get called fat all the time, when i was younger i was anorexic then i was tested for epilepsy and the test came back positive and i went on to the medication and i gained weight fast, i started college and since then everyone is calling me fat, family friends and meant to be college friends. i try to tell myself im ok as i am but people calling me fat, im the size of the house, u can see me a mile away and what doesnt help is people saying im ugly. i have nothing going for me sometimes i just think what is the point.
Thank you ashleigh for stopping by my hub. It's hard to know what to tell you when people are talking to you that way. I learned along time ago to drop friends I felt didn't care about me and to learn to live my own life and go my own way. Do things I enjoyed and not worry about other people. People who call you names aren't worth your friendship but there are people out there who love you for you. It's kind of funny because those people I dropped started wondering why I dropped them, they never ask but they started coming around and calling. If I wanted to I did things with them or I would just say no just to keep them on their toes. Sometimes without realizing it we let ourselves become a whipping post for other people. People who are unhappy are usually the ones that pick on other people. That's the way I do things for myself but I don't know if that's the right way for you to do things, that's just me.
Maybe it would help if you talk with someone you trust completely. You don't want to isolate yourself from everyone we all need people.
I have had people comment about my weight all my life. I'm 30 now and can remember adults making comments about my weight when I was just 8 years old and, to my mind, I wasn't even heavy. A couple of years ago I started gyming and lost a lot of weight. I bumped into a girl I knew and she asked me whether I had AIDS. Then she said my 40 lbs daughter was fat and she was 7. So, either way, people are always getting in each others business. I am now 5'3 and am weighing in at the heaviest I've ever been: 213 pounds
I can't get over how people think they can say anything they want. Their parents must have been terrible to have not taught their children any manners.
Mogan thanks so much for stopping by my hub.
Helpful hub, reading someone else experiencing what I do :) Thank you for your boldness/openess. Yes, I agree people think they might be helping, or just say what they are thinking, mostly not understanding, but instead judging. I've finally realized they have no idea how complicated a weight problem can be and that what works for them doesn't usually transfer into something that works for someone obviously with a different problem from what they have.
Thanks Ms Dee for stopping by and leaving a comment. You are so right weight problems are complicated.
Onto WW tomorrow I'm just struggling trying to keep the 12 lbs off that I have lost and I can't get past a certain point in my weight.
I don't think anyone wants to be overweight - some people have health problems which cause them to be overweight. I think it is cruel to draw attention to someones weight as if they don't know already.
So glad you could share on hubpages your struggle. Your last comment - you're not unhappy - it is people that are unhappy with you.
Thanks for sharing!
Thanks Treasuresofheaven for stopping by and leaving a comment.
Don't people realize that it's not by choice we gain weight? It's hard to accept the fact that we cant' be as tiny as we once were, but things change. Be proud of who you are, not what you look like. I'm with you, girlfriend!
wordsmith1956 Thanks so much for comments and for stopping by.
Wonderful Hub. I also struggle with my own personal weightissues. However many weight issues are inflicted on us by all those high-gloss magazines where all stars are edited and photoshop-ped.
At the end of the day it is not the weight that defines you!
And those people saying those nasty comments (like oinkoink... HOW disrespectful, I can't get over it!) might be skinny but grumpy, mean and obviously have not much to look forward to in life - or why else would they be so nasty to others...?
This is hub many people can relate to even people whohave not been judged for their weight. Some people are just mean sometimes. Nobody is ever just okay with who you are. If it's not your weight, it's your hair, or your skin tone, or your height, or your clothes, or your nails, or who your family is, or where you work, or that you are not employed. Some people just look for a way to be nasty and to put themselves up when they put you down. Useful hub, many can empathize with this and relate to it. It was very brave of you to write this. Good job.
Slightly Bonkers,
You are so right about magazines and the ads that make people look thinner then they are. It's sad for the young girls because they think they have to look that way. They struggle to be like that.
Thanks, so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.
leann2800,
Your right no body is just ok with who you are.They will always find something. Had a so called friend that use to get upset with me because my kids were always clean. How crazy that.
Kids that make fun of people don't realize that someday they will be struggling with weight. The boys that made fun of me they very likely had over weight mothers. They would never do that kind of thing to their mother.
Thanks so much for stopping by.
You know when I was 400 pounds i went through hell. The looks, the things people say, stuff thrown at me. I am clinicly depressed. I ate, ate, and ate. I did not want to live any more. I went out in the back yard tied a rope to a high tree branch and attempted to hang myself. Well I was so fat the branch broke. Just as it did my family came running and I got some help. I think now the people who make fun of others is because they are not comfortable with themselves and it makes them feel better when they find someone who has a bigger fault to say. Now I am 230 -240 floating pounds. And being treated for my depression. Hang in there moonlake if I can do it you can too!
Cutters,
So sorry you attempted to hang yourself but so glad to hear you are now getting help.
It's a hard world out there when your over weight but it's also hard for other people who have different kinds of problems much worse than weight.
Thanks so much for stopping by.
I have one more comment that might hopefully at least put a smile on your faces :) A friend of mine back home in Germany always struggeled with weight but did see it from a funny side:
"Everybody tells me to get in shape. I don't know what they want. Round IS a shape" :D
Slightly Bonkers,
That's cute. Round is really a shape isn't it. Thanks for stopping back by.
great hub,
I really don't get it with all this weight issue. You are what you are. If everything is working OK and you are fairly healthy. What is the issue? lol
molometer,
I agree but it seems lots of people don't agree. I don't watch shows like Biggest Loser I just can't stand to see what they put those people through. Not sure if I even got the name right.
Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment.
I've been overweight since childhood, I've suffered on and off with binge eating, bulimia & depression. I know my weight is unhealthy and I do want to and will do something about it but I find it highly uncomfortable if anyone mentions it, one of my friends called me this evening, we have quite a close and honest friendship (he's very open about his problems, he knows I struggle to speak about mine) however this evening during the call he decided to bring up my weight & say he was worried about it & that something might happen to me healthwise (I'm only 25) I've found this really difficult to deal with, in the past when doctors etc have mentioned it I've ended up starving myself/vomiting and just unable to eat as anyone commenting on it makes me feel so uncomfortable and anxious and makes me generally hate myself which I constantly do anyway but I now feel he's looking at me & judging me & almost pitying me, I don't know how to stop feeling like this.
Rebecca, I'm sorry about what your going through. I wish I knew how to help. I'm sure your friend cares about you and isn't judging. I know from experience it's easy to take what people say about your weight the wrong way.
Love yourself no matter what. Face each day happy no matter what. I think what people don't get, they think their helping by bringing up weight but their not. You will lose your weight if that's what you want to do in your own time and not in someone else's time.
Thank you so much for stopping by and please don't hate yourself.
when ever i walk out side or look out my door people call me names like fat, ugly, fat ass bitch or you better run fat ass they keep on hitting me until i have blood. i am not that fat it is a bad thing when other people call other people fat you should not bully other people because you are only hurting yourself
This should not be tolerated. If your being hit you need to tell your parents, police, teacher, doctor or adult friend. No excuse for anyone doing any of these things to you. It is a bad thing when people call people fat no one should do that.
Jeez, Moonlake, I'm not sure what to say. Those comments would drive me insane, literally. How do you put up with them?
I think people are way too preoccupied with what others look like. I mean, what does it have to do with them? I'm blind, and sometimes I think it's a good thing, because even though I'd never judge anyone on their appearance (I'm notexactly a looker myself) it means I don't even have a chance to subconciously form an opinion before talking to them.
I'm sorry to say, but your mum has a pretty messed up way of looking at things.
I'm sorry you've had to put up with crap like this - no one deserves that.
VendettaVixen,
Thank you for your comments. My Mom can be a very kind person but she can't get her mind off people she thinks are fat. My sisters and I have tried to tell her she is being unkind but it doesn't work with her. She's in her 80's there is no changing her. The sad part is her attitude has ran some her grandchildren away from her.
Wow... after reading your experiences, I just want to say: You are one strong woman. I've never experienced this level of discrimination and drivel before but I do on some level know what it's like to be criticized on for one's own weight. My mother and grandmother (not to mention my own twin brother) always pick away at me for being overweight. They don't do it all the time but they do it enough that I'm always reminded of it when I talk to them. I'm sure you feel the same way right?
I don't much care for others who say that I'm fat but if it's some who I care about saying it to me in my face, it hurts, a lot. Really. They say that they're only telling it to me because they care but really, deep down inside of me, I only feel like they're saying it to me because they're embarrassed to have someone like me related to them. They either treat it like a great big joke or they try to convince me that I must lose weight in order to find a good guy. It crushes me whenever I hear it. I don't let it show on my face how much it hurts me because doing so will only make them talk about it even more.
What's even worse is that some others of my family (my cousins and uncles/aunts) use me as an example to not be FAT (dear goodness, I hate this word so much; I'm not even all that much overweight to begin with). This is one messed up world we live in. On the net, it's a lot worse too because people aren't afraid of insulting others for being the way they are (they hide behind anonymity).
Wild Spirit, Thanks so much for stopping by my hub. It is hard when it's people you love that say terrible things to you. What can you do, they will just keep saying it. I will promise you if you lose the weight they want you to lose then they will turn around and get all worried because they will think your sick. Seems you can never win. I'm so glad you stopped by and told your story.
I have also been through a tough time... i put on a total of 70kgs in 2 years, i am a stress eater! I hate going out even to go to the shops because i know people are staring at me... i am 6ft tall but even so i am big very big... The other day i was in a shop with my two sisters looking at dresses and i saw this really nice one i said 'oh this is a pretty colour' and a girl walked past me smiling as if to say yeh id love to see you get into that... i gave her back a filthy look but even so it put a damper on my shopping trip... the rest of that day i was feeling very dipressed and didnt want to be there anymore... people are rude and dont think that even big people have feelings it makes me sick to even think about it, they dont know who you are or what your situation is but even so they make fun of you. But even so my family are very supportive of me and encourage me to not loose faith. your stories are inspiring and you are a strong person!
Emzstrange,
I'm sorry people are rude to you. It seems the younger generation are even worse than others. Why I don't know but I think most of it is because they aren't taught manners at all. We have to learn to not pay attention to what people do and go on with life and enjoy it.
So glad you stopped by and left your story.
when people say anything to me about my weight, i say, 'i love this body; it gave me my child.' i've gained 50 lbs since i got married 24 years ago... and anyone who says anything better be stinkin perfect!
shea duane,
Good come back. Thanks, so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.
Moonlake, this is a very interesting hub. As you can see, this topic is a very sensitive one that many need to talk about. There are so many stigmas in this world. Regarding my weight, I have learned not to let others bother me by ignoring their comments or just telling them what I think. In my case, I have to recognize that being overweight is personal. If I it is unhealthy or makes me sad, or I am overeating and not doing exercises, it is may decision if I continue like this or if I will do something about it. On the other hand, If I am curvy and I feel good and content, I keep on with my life. People can say and talk and make fun, but non of them deserve my attention. Good luck and stay happy.
AnnaCia,
You are so right it is your decision, to eat and do what ever you want. It's no ones place to make comments about your weight or tell you how you should eat or look.
Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.
You know , i cant stand rude people , and i can relate since ive battled weight all my life , but i went down to 170 in 2010 , its 2012 and i am now 210 but with good reason , i lift weights alot and do cardio to keep up , but recently i had this one "friend" come over and pretty much indirectly tell me everything i was doing is wrong , i am still chubby and have alot of body fat , i have no muscle tone whatsoever im mostly fat tried to be mr know it all pretty much , it really hit me when he said all those things , because i bust my ass evetyday doing cardio and lifting weights to get to my goal and have been for about 6-7 months now trying to better myself and i felt great about myself and how i was trying and the good i was doing for myself , but those comments he made made me feel awful about myself and like i was wasting my time , people can be so cruel.
C, Anytime your doing cardio and weights you are not wasting your time. Any kind of movement or exercise is good. Your friend is cruel. Some people are just that way and we have to put up with it. Myself I would turn that friend into an ex-friend.
Thanks for leaving a comment and telling your experience.
yea it really sucks when people make comments like that , i mean i work so hard , and my metabolism isnt the best , but for my size i carry my weight good in my opinion ,im 23, im a big bulky guy but not really out of shape too much since i work out every day , but just because i wasnt "cut up" it wasnt good enough so he had to make the body fat comments , granted he showed me exercised that can help , but 70 percent of what the kid was saying was offensive , even if he thought it was not , there was no need for chubby comments or body fat comments , even if it needed to be said , it was still offensive , i know i can do alot more to lose the extra 15-20 pounds i have on me , im told alot that i carry it well and alot of people give me credit and compliment me on how i look like i work out , but when i hear those comments from someone who calls themself a friend , the fat , chubby , balloom , puffy ,body fat , weak , remarks , it makes me feel terrible and really kicks my self esteem down alot , thanks Moonlake , i think everyone should want to help others drop weight or get into groups and do it , but if you are going to try and help someone and make them feel like crap in the process by what they think is "constructive criticism" but really are just harsh comments that are not needed, it really does not help , you know.
C, Your right harsh remarks don't help and so many people think they can help by making what they think is constructive criticism. It just doesn't work. It's up to all of us to do what we can to lose weight not our friends. Good friends stand by us and just support us. Those are the friends I would hang out with. Sounds like your doing all the right things. Good luck in your journey to lose weight. Thanks again for stopping by.
Sorry I pressed send too soon.
I dont even get it. But please do not let disgusting judgemental comments from ignorant people EVER bring you down
Pancake, Thanks so much for your concern and comment. Sorry the first comment you made I couldn't put it on here because of one word you used. I'll paste it on here and leave out the word.
Pancake also said:
Okay I just honestly want to punch EVERY single ignorant person that ever said anything mean to you? Like are you fudging kidding me!? 95lb is NOT fat! And in all honesty, I honestly DETEST when it is overweight people who are the ones calling people thinner than them fat! Like I normally don't judge anyone for their weight, but the second they do something like that I will! If they can not take care of themselves, why would dare pick on someone else who's smaller than you? Do you feel so badly about yourself that you have make everyone around you feel like poop.
Thanks again for stopping by.
It truly is awful the way people pick on others who are overweight. It seems like since they cannot make jokes about people of other races, sexual orientation, etc., that they have found weight to be a safe topic to make jokes about. I don't think they realize how hurtful they are being - not with their hearts anyway, they can't put themselves in our shoes to know what it feels like. I think a lot of them are being helpful, which is so not the case.
Millionaire Tips, The ones that think their trying to help seem to think we're all blind and can't see that we're over weight. I just think it's rude, rude, rude and nasty.
Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.
When I was a little girl I was about 10lbs over weight, and one day I had the bright idea to play with a knife. Well, I ended up cutting myself and needed surgery. While the surgeons were opp-orating on my finger, my anesthesia wore off, and I could hear the staff talking and laughing about my "obesity." I kept my eyes shut because I was too embarrassed to let them know I had heard them and I didn't want them to see me cry.
Oh, how awful B. I know from experence doctors and nurses can be just as rude and nasty as anyone else. They think we don't have ears and can't hear them when their talking about us.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I am so glad you stopped by and told your story.
Thank you moonlake, it's nice to know I'm not alone :)
B. Your Welcome.
Thank you for this page. Often in my work ( I am a nurse ) I meet overweight people with health problems. Some time ago my first reaction was to think that the weight is their most important problem. This thought was before I undestand that their real most important problem is the reaction of others.
fucsia, You are so right their biggest problem is the reactions of others. It stops them from doing things that could help lower their weight. It has stopped me.
Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment.
goldentoad 3 years ago
I've gained weight since I've been in a lock down relationship, as I'm sure everyone else that gets lock down does, I went and bought a bigger size waist in pants, now everyone says, I still look the same.